You just got engaged and you want to shout it out to the whole world -and so you should, because it’s a happy occasion. In the digital age, this usually means jumping onto social media sites such as Facebook and Twitter.
A dilemma we face now with modern weddings is how best we make use of these platforms.
Try to avoid Facebook or e-invitations
On average, how many emails do you receive per week and how often would you check a Facebook invite compared with snail mail? I rest my case.
There’s something special about receiving a real invitation in the mail. Think about it. You are more than likely to read a proper invitation through regular post. It’s personal, leaves a lasting impression and also builds anticipation.
Include a separate RSVP insert card along with the invitation, providing postal or email options. This not only gives guests flexibility, but also helps you keep better track of who is attending what function. No ‘maybes’ this way.
Do not use social media as a blogging tool
Yes, that’s right. There is a limit to how much you should share about your wedding preparations. It’s okay to vent, but not to the point where you start coming off as a bride-zilla! Share positive thoughts and your sense of excitement.
Rather than overloading your social media pages with each and every detail, why not create a blog, wedding website or app? Websites such as Wix, Wedding Window or EWedding often have a number of budget friendly, modern and mobile friendly templates to choose from. Close friends and family can keep track of how things are travelling and you can even include some useful and important information about the wedding itself, such as venue, wedding registry or even a wedding day countdown clock.
Limit phone use
If you must post updates, designate a family member or friend to keep your ‘followers’ in the loop, or simply switch off for the day.
You are sharing your wedding day with some of the most important people in your lives. For those who couldn’t attend the festivities, they’ll just have to wait for the DVD or official photographs. Hello, #latergrams!
Of course, this rule doesn’t apply only to the couple. Recently, wedding photographer Thomas Stewart made headlines after sharing an unpleasant photograph reminding us of the perils of mobile photography at a wedding. He made an impassioned plea for couples to consider an ‘unplugged wedding.’
‘You’re paying a photographer quite a bit of money; that means you want great photos. We cannot do our best work with people getting in our way.’ – Thomas Stewart of Thomas Stewart Photography
Stay seated and take in the moment. It’s disrespectful and disruptive to the photographer and/or videographer.
For selfie-lovers, offer a photo booth at the wedding reception.
Use your photographer
Your wedding will be over in a flash, don’t waste your precious moments capturing mobile phone images of your jewellery, outfits, shoes etc.
Once again your photographer was hired to do that job for you, and guess what? His camera is better than yours!
Create a hashtag
Having an official wedding hashtag creates a fun element to your wedding day.
Choose something catchy and tasteful, and remind guests by including it in your wedding invitation, and perhaps in the form of a signboard or small place cards on the guests tables. Your Master of Ceremonies could also make an announcement at the beginning of your reception party, encouraging guests (not that they need enticing) to get in on it.
Communication these days is limited and in a world made up of hashtags, periscope, and snapchat, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement and forget the big picture. Cherish the moments, catch up with your friends, and remember that this is the biggest day of your life.